Health ~ Coping ~ Other
options than cutting to shift the pain
Cutters were mentioned in the TV series "Nip / Tuck" and it gave
me perspective. They said that cutters want to shift emotional pain to physical
because it’s more manageable.
But you'll still have pain... and wounds. They can get infected and give
you internal problems. There are more constructive and effective ways to
reach that goal.
Physical pain releases endorphins once the danger is passed, to calm you
down and say "it's okay now"... but not for emotional pain because
they're complex issues to process mentally. Forcing your body to tell you
that it's okay won't resolve your issues... and will cause more.
But sometimes emotions can be too overwhelming, and you might need a break
until your circumstances allow you to do something about it.
You basically have 3 brains: the emotional, rational and primal one. They
work together but since energy is limited, using one might impair the other.
That means that if you use your rational brain, to do a hobby, learn something
or even look at funny pictures like demotivational posters... your rational
brain will take over and give your emotional brain a rest.
That's why the technique in this YouTube video can work, by stimulating
your rational brain so it will take over:
Freedom Technique (EFT) Introduction
The game Tetris is even used to treat PTSD (Post traumatic stress). It works
because it's purely intellectual. It won't trigger your fight and flight
response like a violent game would, which can worsen emotional distress,
because your primal brain thinks that the enemies are a real threat. It's
fun though... but exhausting. So enjoy in moderation and only when you feel
good enough to have energy to spare. Even Tetris can drain you mentally.
So anything that calls another part of your brain than the emotional one
will lower the emotional pain. The possibilities are endless, so there's
no need to choose yet more pain, it's illogical if you want pain to go away.
If you want to drug your brain into feeling pleasure when your reality inspires
another emotion... Try vitamin C, it has a sedative effect at high doses.
Magnesium can cause euphoria because serotonin is created in the gut with
Pot will damage your lungs but at least it won't destroy your kidneys like
antidepressants and anti-anxiety... which cause depression and anxiety as
a side effect!
Focus on what your body needs in a natural way, with respect and compassion,
and you'll find what you truly need.
If you really want to cut yourself, then use your muscles: go for a walk
or run with everything that you've got. You'll cause billions of small cuts
in your muscles. But instead to have nasty scars and show the world that
they don't need to respect you since you have none for yourself... you'll
actually become stronger.
If you are exhausted, then the stress may have exhausted your adrenals.
Even what you love requires energy and can give you Adrenal
The water soluble vitamins, B complex and C, will give them the strength
to help you cope physically, so you'll be able to mentally. The brain also
needs a lot of vitamin C and is made of fat. Eat for healing, not taste.
If you still want pleasure from pain, you don't need to bleed. Find a sexual
partner to enjoy masochism, get a piercing, tattoo or even scarification
from a professional. It will be a constructive way to express yourself on
What you do to yourself, you'll invite others to do... If you want respect
and love, give it to yourself. Being confident will make people take you
more seriously, and smiling will make you more attractive.
If you hurt yourself to shift the pain, you'll still have pain.
End it and the vicious cycle by achieving the same results, and even better,
with other means.
I first started the page Vent
anger for balance & inner peace
to give cutters other options
until I figured out that everyone needs ways to cope. Find a liberating
one that will give you respect and dignity. Don’t wait for others
to dictate and validate your worth, everyone can be wrong, so give it to
yourself no matter what you deserve.
The only absolute law in life is to protect your own life.
Lisa Of Shades
6 February 2015