Pets ~ Cats ~ Coping without
There's a better way to cope than hoarding: letting go.
Sometimes you just can't hang in there... it just causes too much hurt to
you and the ones you're supposed to love.
I denounce the horrors in Love
me clean me
, but to be constructive I'll try to show understanding
and give constructive alternatives since you couldn't find any better than
to neglect a too high amount of cats in the name of so called "love"...
Nothing can replace self love and proper self care. Watch the movie Hungry
Read about compulsive
From what I could understand, it has nothing to do with love and everything
to do with insecurities. People can accumulate anything, even garbage. It
seems to be a survival mechanism, like the squirrel storing for winter.
It can be triggered by grief, the person can end up unable to cope with
loss to the point that they can't let go of anything at all, even things
that they can't possibly use/need/care for.
Read about Grief
in my coping section, I offer Coping
, which can help vent, let go and reach acceptance.
Having the unconditional affection of suffering neglected cats isn't the
answer when you are too exhausted by stress to even
take care of yourself
. Learn how by reading about Adrenal
. Vitamin C is necessary to make the adrenalin required
to face a demanding situation, and a whole lot of it. Once you'll have the
energy to handle situations better (a B complex sure raise energy levels
better than sugar or coffee), you won't feel the desperate need to hold
on to everything you can cling on.
Here's one of my demotivational poster:
More versios in page Humor
~ Demotivational ~ Animals
Treat your loved ones with love. What you DO defines
, not what you feel hidden deep down where no one can see... when
the cause to effect is closer to hatred.
Enjoy with genuine care~ With actions not just greedy feelings.
Take care of yourself, needs and self esteem... yourself! Because cats is
one more responsibility, not a solution to lack of self love, self respect
and self confidence! Cats won't fix your insecurities, they'll make more
mess to clean up!
You can only give what you already have, nurture it within yourself. Not
by indulging whims and greed thoughtlessly, but by putting what is needed
before what is wanted, what is vital before what is wished… and putting
respect are care into what you love.
Practice with yourself until you get it right. If you can’t do that,
at least don’t make innocent creatures suffer. They’re not there
to take care of you, you’re there to take care of them!
Enjoy, but if you inflict them a pile of shit, neglect and denied diseases
in return, then you don’t deserve to!
Clean your own shitty life before considering taking the responsibility
of more lives!
Then maybe you can enjoy without deserving cats shitting in your bed and
clawing off your face!
I know loss too well, loneliness, the need for affection and companionship…
I’ve been all alone trapped in my bed for almost 10 years! But I just
can’t stand people like that so much… That I can’t finish
my post by telling those people to enjoy… because what they do is
way too disgusting.
I have fishes because they are easier to care for. Wanting isn't enough
when you can't handle it... don't spread the freaking misery, sucking the
life out of innocent animals... Just kill them quick and eat them...
If you need to cope and vent, go punch a hello kitty pillow.
Yeah! Go enjoy that!
If you love cats so much, then put posters all over your walls, on your
ceiling and plasticize one in your shower! If you can't handle the real
thing, if you love them, then admit it and leave that to better people!
If you don't care about their well being, hen you don't care about cats
and leave them the hell alone!!!
They'd be better off DEAD than neglected by you! Don't take on more than
you can handle, respect your limit, and you won't need to be comforted by
a giant ball of fur of mingled cats!
*punches your face*
That's for making me unable to enjoy cats anymore after seeing how pitiful
they were! I don't want to become like you! Even cat haters treat them better
than cat obsessed people!
I babysat the 5 cats of friends when they had a vacation, and there was
litter in their bed!!!
When you're such a shit head with yourself... I guess cats can't hope to
enjoy any better.
Forcing kittens into cups, to take pictures, with an expression of pain
when they can barely breathe in distress... because it's "sooo cute".
Open your freaking eyes and look into theirs!!! They're in pain!!! You fucking
sadist! Oh yeah you laugh at their misery because you looove them sooo much.
On behalf of all cats: FUCK YOU!
THERE! That's how you cope properly!
By taking care of your needs, expressing yourself, venting on pain-free
pixels, not sentient beings with feelings who cat get hurt, sick and die!
Not by tormenting cats in the name of "love" and "cuteness"!
You freaking retards! People argue that animals are less intelligent than
humans and therefore should have fewer rights... It sure isn't true about
*Mumbles* I feel better.
If you think that I hurt your feelings, I didn't, I
just made you see the hurt that YOU do!
It's despicable and you use cats because they can't tell you in a language
that you can understand! SO I WILL! People wouldn't stand for how you act
and you know it! That's why you ended up with cats in the first place! Because
they can't defend themselves, they're SLAVES! They can't leave you no matter
how bad you neglect and mistreat them... So you can do whatever you want,
however you want, without giving a damn and letting them rot in their shit,
and they're still there for you, but not because they want to or love you!
That boost your self esteem... not to be someone good, not to do something
good for another... But to OWN a life with POWER. You're more worthless
than a worm, and as long as you'll act this way, no amount of cats will
change that fact! You're despicable, and I sure hate you.
If you stop being such a piece of shit, then maybe you won't need so many
cats to comfort you because you'll spread better all around you. Maybe that's
why you don't clean the litter box, you like to be surrounded by what you
are: shit! With such a putrid heart, you probably don’t even notice
Know better, do better, en-freaking-joy better!!!
Lisa Of Shades
15 January 2014
Letting go and making good decisions requires energy
that you might not have
Getting more to deal with will only worsen the problem. Getting more energy
will improve it.
You might have Adrenal
Fatigue like so many have, and I'm one of them. When I raised
my energy levels with nutrition, my hoarding impulses and my ability to
let go improved enormously. I don't feel like a scared victim anymore.
I feel empowered by knowledge, no matter what happens, I know I can figure
it out. I've done it before and I can do it again. I saved my own life
after all, everything else is easy compared to that, and even self care
When you are in a state of exhaustion, you don’t have enough resources
to produce your vital functions. One of the instinctive survival mechanisms
is to hold on to everything you can get, just in case you might need it
Your brain doesn’t have the energy to analyze if it’s really
important or not, elaborating endless scenarios where you might need it
or not, so you might end up clinging to everything, even the most useless
trash. It actually requires energy to let go, the same way as you need
energy to open your hand, or rewrite in your brain that an item is no
longer there, no longer available, and when you already have not enough,
it can be too terrifying and exhausting.
When my health got better, with rest and high nutrition, I ended up able
to radically reorganizing my home and getting rid of a lot of things in
storage. I read that when you haven’t used something in many months,
you might as well get rid of it. It’s been years so it was obvious
that I wouldn’t, but letting go of the memory itself was hard too,
but I had the energy so I could. I knew that I could always find what
I needed later if it was a mistake, because I have done it before and,
thanks to being well nourished, I can do it again!
My trick to avoid buying or gathering compulsively is to remind myself
that it won’t just be fun… animals might be comforting but
they’re a noisy and stinky responsibility. They need to eat, shit,
get sick and die. It won’t magically take away my pain, it will
only give me more to deal with, both good and bad, but both will require
energy that I might not have. Often when we need to be comforted it’s
because we simply don’t have the energy to do it ourselves, we need
nutrition to heal, so we can share something healthier than sucking the
life and blood out of a living creature.
I also remind myself that I’m clingy, so I don’t get something
new unless I’m sure that I want to deal with it and stumble on it
for the next 10 years. My home is small, so I can’t allow myself
to mindlessly cluster it. When I’m sick I can’t get out, I’d
be over suffocating if there was trash on my bed and all over my floor!
I’m territorial; I don’t want anything in my way! I won’t
allow it, I can’t always, I can’t control people, but at least
in my own home nothing will stop me to move around!!! I have a small throw
area, when I need to re-use clothing later, but NEVER on my floor and
don’t even think of doing that to my sacred bed.
It’s about self respect, the attitude that you have for the simplest
and most insignificant things grow and are magnified on the most important
things, and vice versa… if you are exhausted by the huge things
to the point of being sick, you won’t be able to handle the small
ones, not even if all they give you is joy, you won’t have the energy
to handle doing your hobbies and taking proper care of your pets, so you’ll
have to watch them suffer, get sick and die… There’s a limit
to denial… death is the ultimate loss. I make sure to avoid putting
myself in a worse situation trying to comfort myself. Yes having a floor
made of cats would be fun to walk on… until they shit… die…
But when you can’t find the energy to think, you probably won’t
think of it. So remember this simple thing: NO MORE! Time to heal with
Want only what you need, and eventually enough you’ll have the energy
for everything else… letting go… or maybe even a floor made
of cats, but if you end up exhausted again, that could get very ugly very
More ways to cope:
~ Coping ~ Vent anger for balance & inner peace
Lisa Of Shades
22 July 2014